I've move this post to: Journey of a Heart Set Free
Thank you for reading & I hope to meet you over there. :)
Wednesday, February 09, 2011
I've move this post to: Journey of a Heart Set Free
Wednesday, December 29, 2010
Saturday, December 11, 2010
I am finishing up school for the semester, both mine and the kids' and getting ready for Christmas, which is sandwiched by two birthdays. Also on the agenda, after Christmas break from school (so... after next week!), I am moving all my blog posts and everything to Journey of a Heart Set Free . I am Learning so much in this process! Anyway, while I may be tempted to avoid my responsibilities at home, I won't be able to post again until after Christmas. SO, Merry Christmas to all!
Thursday, November 04, 2010
For years our family has had an internet filtering program on our home computers- for obvious reasons. We had a subscrtption with NetNanny for quite a few years. This year when it came time to renew our subscription, I had some questions about using the program for mobile devices: smart phones, iPads, PSPs, etc (not that we have any of those things, but Hero is hoping to purchase an iPad in the not too distant future and Prince Valiant is saving his money for a PSP). Netnanny offers text filtering, but no website blocking on mobile devices.
So, I went hunting a comparable program which offers more mobile protection. I found exactly what I was looking for in Safe Eyes. It offers the same amount of protection as NetNanny did as well as the mobile protection we might need in the future AND the price was better, by about $10. I made the switch and we have been very happy so far.
Hero and I have talked about just dropping this expense from our yearly budget; I do trust that he can say no and turn his eyes away should he come across anything unacceptable online. We chose to keep this expense for two reasons: 1) to protect the kids, you just never know sometimes what might pop-up with a seemingly bengin webpage; 2) there is no reason to dangle temptation in front of anyone- this program offers our family another layer of protection and accountability.
Thursday, October 28, 2010
I've been getting questions a lot recently about bonding with him, since its pretty noticeable that he is momma's boy. I can honestly say that while we were going through the paperwork for the adoption, and then waiting, waiting, waiting, I didn't spend much time worrying about if we would bond with our baby or not. I expected the bonding process to take time and ...well, be a process.
I've seen the bonding process at work before. Hero left for his first year- long deployment when Princess Francis was not even one month old. Needless to say, when he came back a year later, she was less than thrilled with this "man" in the house that she had to share her mommy with.
I watched as Hero tried so hard to get our princess to accept him, and love him, but she would have none of it. It took just about a full year for the two of them to bond. Though the process was a little painful for the two of them, the bond they now share has withstood a recent year- long deployment and many battles of the "will". She is now "Daddy's little girl" and knows that he absolutely adores her.
So, having seen the process at work, I was ready to begin the process of bonding with our son when we flew to Atlanta to pick him up. Imagine my surprise when, as early as the second night that we had him, he had bonded with me. I'm not sure if my voice resembles his birthmommy's, or what, but from that night on, only the sound of my voice could soothe him when he was crying out for comfort. Not even an inability to breastfeed him has hampered the bond between us. More often than not, I am the only person he will accept a bottle from, but that's okay I LOVE the snuggle time with him.
Now, I'm not saying that if you're contemplating adoption that bonding will be a piece of cake for you. In fact, I've heard of several stories where bonding with the adopted child was a very long process; honestly, that was what I was expecting to take place. Instead, God chose to bless me with a close bond with Prince Naveen right from the start and he is most definitely a wonderful addition to our family unit!
Monday, October 18, 2010
After much reflection and soul searching, I've realized that I do all of this from fear (or maybe even terror). ;-) Hero is the proncipal of our little homeschool, but the day-to-day teaching and training falls squarely on my shoulders. I truly enjoy teaching our children and having them home with me, but the weight of responsibility can sometimes be overwheling, to say the least.
The fear strikes hardest when I turn my focus from what I should be doing. It begins with looking to “just see” if there's a way I can improve what I'm doing to teach the kids. Before long, I'm not just “seeing” what others are doing differently, I'm comparing what my children know and can do with their children. This comparison mentality is what leads me into the trap of fear.
Oh, I know that each family is different and that what works for one child doesn't necessarily work for another- with a completely different personality. It's just that my heart doesn't always know what my brain does. This is where my faith must conquer my fear.
I can feel overwhelmed, and lacking in wisdom, finances, patience, resources, etc, but I know that God has called me to homeschool our children. I am fully confident that He knows how I feel; He also knows what circumstances really are, and He can see the bigger picture. Knowing all this, He still blessed our family with the four children we have and called us to homeschool.
Trusting God, His love, and His plan isn't always easy, but it helps me to get out of that trap of fear; sometimes it helps me to avoid the trap altogether. “Faith is the victory!”